What u feel really good about right now - thank you cassandra, bungalow boy,scolix, perneseblue..........etc :) (Nov/26/2008 )

So I was on this forum for weeks and weeks because I was having problems in my new lab, both personal and scientific, but I am proud to say I cloned so awesome shRNAs thanks to all the help I got here and I also did my first EMSA this week. First one was horrible, second one was awesome, it worked really well!!!!
So right now I feel pretty good, all those weeks that I was low and thinking that I was a moron are gone. I am pretty sure now that I am in fact smart and capable of learning and also that people were/are purposely trying to put me down. It feels so good to finally believe in myself again, I still had big issues with my boss as a scientist but I now recognise that she takes out her issues in all of us and I have a voice that can be heard.


What are you feeling good about???

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It’s this post, actually, after reading it i.e.……sorry, I was kinda busy whining in one thread and whacking someone’s shameless head in another that I didn’t notice this. I’m glad things are finally working out for you (wasn’t I good in predicting this) and that you’ve got your confidence back. There’d still be a lot of speed bumps on the road (so forget about doing the F1) but you’ve got the right attitude now and that would help a lot.

And regarding your boss, well, you can’t have everything you want in life (no one’s that lucky) so you have to take her with the good and the bad and a grain of salt. She’s probably an acquired taste that you’d learn to appreciate later on (she could’ve called the German equivalent of the DEA on you after your presentation but she didn't ). I suspect that she just has a weird sense of humour. Good luck… and tell us how it goes the next time you present.

casandra

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No F1?



Which one is better? Boss with no sense of humor or boss with weird sense of humor?

Good Luck nanu nana - see U around.

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I'll take weird anytime..at least it's better to expect something (esp the unexpected and the unpredictable) than none at all but that's just me....

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I would also take weird anytime, I just dont appreciate weak. Alas! that is what I have

I just had a meeting with my boss and the big boss because she wasnt strong enough to handle it on her own. Basically he had to tell me that he had to be sure about how I felt about the project because I had to give 200% and there were a couple of things that I had said to her that made them think that maybe I wasnt really excited about the project and that was unacceptable.
So I sat there and talked and laughed and explained the psychology of the situation and the therapeutic hype that had led to me getting negative feedback about the project (basically 90% of the lab thinks its complete bullshit, including an ex PhD that doesnt work here anymore) but that talking to HER made me realize one needed to hear two sides of the story blablabla

So hes all smiles and agreeing and shes sitting there not saying much so I had to ask her what she thought because if she wasnt convinced about me I would understand since there HAD been quite a couple of missunderstandings

So she breaths in and manages to let out that she wasnt completely convinced because she didnt like people questioning her (which wouldnt happen if she had half a personality and could actually show excitement about what she does and people in the lab didnt say she was socially incompetent) but she didnt know because I seemed to be working well blabla

So I said I completely understood and that yes maybe me being young meant that maybe I didnt always come across the way I wanted to but that she could tell me when she was unhappy and why and what I could do to make it better that I would be ok with that that she wouldnt hurt my feelings and that I wouldnt cry (she flinched when I said this because I bet she would) and that I would understand what she says and think of how to improve what I was doing wrong.

So the big boss is all smiles and said he was happy with the outcome and he was glad we had talked about this now and it could have been more emotional hahahaha hes so used to dealing with her he probably thought I would make a scene and start shaking like she does so he was happy and she was looking at me like she didnt know how to take what I was saying, whether to believe me or not.


Uhm..........soooooo what I didnt mention is that im applyin somewhere else and I want to stay as long as the project im working on right now gets published because its very exciting. I can see now that its not going to work out though, I DO have an attitute problem when I dont respect peoples capability and unless i HAVE to (no money, no future) I dont fake it that well and also im just not used to being around someone that is so...........sensitive? I dunno im also a woman and emotional at times but gees you would think after 20 years you could look people in the eye and fire them if need be and command respect in your lab, maybe even get some coaching lessons for talking to people and transmitting other emotions than fear. Ive never in my whole short life met a boss like this, arrogant yes, coleric sure, demanding yup but shes so unusual, a geeky psycho of sorts with a thin high-pitched voice and a body prone to ackward shudders. SUCH a contrast to another PI in the lab, a guy with a family and 6 PhDs, knows everything about his PhDs projects and has great ideas, can present really well and is so proactive in everything. He deserves her position,



STILL happy though haha!!!!!!!

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lol BB

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