@ casandra: As an assertive, aggressive woman, I can answer these questions based on my experiences. My experiences may or may not be typical.
No. I get along just fine with men on a personal, equal basis. Men at work are a different matter. I have pointed out problems (and provided my sources for recommended corrections), have spoken my mind, and have defended my position to men in a position of power--and have been berated for being insubordinate, difficult to work with, etc. I was chewed out by one boss because I declined to be his graduate student, even though I had no interest in his field of study. (It was just a paycheck.) He also said, "You make your own way." It was not a compliment.
Yes. I am a 'troublemaker' and 'hot-headed', just because I take exception to being "owned." Working for a man does not entitle him to making my career decisions for me. This is not female chauvanism; I would take exception to a woman doing the same.
Working for your BOSS (male or female) entitles him/her to make decisions and to expect you to follow them. If you cannot, get out of the lab. Furthermore, if you are his grad student, then he expects you to act like one.
Working for a boss (male or female) DOES entitle him to make decisions about what you do at work. Now get back to work.....
Edited by StevieRay, 24 November 2009 - 09:15 AM.