You really need to tell him what this is doing to you. Tell him how much pressure you are under and how this is just dragging you down. Tell him that you need him and his help to make it through. You shouldn't do this in an accusing, guilt-tripping manner but a matter of fact, plea for help. If he truly loves you, he'll see that you can not continue like this and should be willing to be more helpful. If, after you tell him how hard this whole situation is for you and how much you need his help, he does not change at all, he doesn't love you the way he should. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you but just that he's not willing to treat you and the relationship properly. You two are supposed to be a team. The two of you against the rest of the world. Once it becomes you against him and the entire world, the team is gone and you are best cutting your losses. Not an easy thing to hear and much harder to do but if your partner isn't willing to help you in a time of need, what good is he really??? He's just become a drain and will pull you down until there is nothing left. In a relationship, you will only be treated as well as you demand to be treated. If you let him walk all over you without consequences, he'll wallk all over you. I'm so sorry for your situation. I know it's so difficult but you must talk with him and tell him exactly how you are feeling. This situation is completely unfair to you and simply unacceptable anymore. Something has to give and change, the question is just what's going to give and where is the change going to occur? Seems like up to this point it's been all about him, what about you? You have a right to demand certain expectations and assistance from him. Unfortunantly this is going to be a huge, potentially relationship-breaking conversation but it's time for you to see the true colors of this man and see what he is like under pressure and when confronted with his own faults. This is the true test for anyone.
p.s. DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT miss anymore work because of this guy!!! If you loose your job, the situation will just have become a million times worse!!! A clean house just isn't worth the risk of loosing your job.
Edited by rkay447, 03 March 2009 - 05:28 AM.