Complain about old PI
Posted 13 October 2010 - 11:07 AM
Posted 13 October 2010 - 11:18 AM
Edited by casandra, 13 October 2010 - 11:20 AM.
- hobglobin, personal comment about my beauteous photo......
Posted 13 October 2010 - 12:31 PM
Posted 23 November 2010 - 06:35 PM
First, he views you as 'his', so your move was a slap in his face. Pardon my sexism, but it seems like older men view younger women as "daughters" (in your case, you are intellectual offspring) and expect to have the respect and obedience that a daughter would give a father-figure. He didn't want you to go to that lab, so you are a bad daughter for not respecting his wishes.
Second, he may be trying to break you down--for what reason, we will never know. Maybe he's trying to toughen you up before you leave this institution so you are ready to face whatever you encounter at your next institution. Maybe you remind him of a former student who burned him in some way. Maybe he has a beef with your current boss. Maybe he dated your mom in high school and he's taking his revenge on you. (like in that Lindsay Lohan movie I can't remember at the moment.)
Don't let him tweak you so much. Does you current boss know what's going on? If he's OK with acting as a buffer, then just keep doing your current job to the best of your ability. Don't give him so much power, worrying about recommendations and such. If he's as big as you say he is, everyone is aware of his quirks and will consider what he says accordingly. There is always some good-hearted person out there who will go to bat for you and counter his comments if they believe in you.
heh, just noted the date. How are things now?
Edited by lab rat, 23 November 2010 - 06:36 PM.
Posted 24 November 2010 - 02:16 PM
Thanks for the reply. It's still pretty much the same. My old boss managed to think up an experiment that I should do for this paper and managed to talk my new boss (the collaborator on the paper) into having me do it. Of course this means that I need to be up in the old lab using equipment and reagents not available in the new lab. Hmmm... how convenient that he found a way to make me essentially come back to the lab. Since both PIs agree that it's an experiment worth doing, I really have no choice but to go along with it and just do the work. Heck, if it works it greatly increases the potential impact factor of this story. Meanwhile, I can't really seem to make anything work in the new lab which is very frustrating. I feel like a new graduate student since I don't know where anything is or any of the protocols. I'm constantly having to bug people in the lab but I'm trying to be polite and acknowledge any help they give me. I know that goes a long way. Otherwise, I'm just trying to get this paper done and out. On the bright side, the whole "my husband and I are trying to start our own family" worked out....I'm still trying to decide when to tell the new boss that I'm going to need time off next summer... Thanks again for the advice and shoulder. It's nice to just get things off your chest an realize that you're not alone in the boss from hell saga.
Posted 24 November 2010 - 02:59 PM
i'm sure he got to where he is now by being super anal and a perfectionist.
don't take it so personally. he might criticize your work but his criticism prob isn't hurting your work.
his comment about your future looking bleak.. hard to say if he's just being honest or if he's trying to motivate u to prove him wrong.
i've heard stories about a prof who literally told their student that their choice in thesis was stupid and that he'd get no where, but later on that same prof invested a lot of money into helping that same student start a biotech networking group (which has grown a lot!). and now they just look back on it and laugh
Posted 25 November 2010 - 04:32 PM
Edited by bob1, 25 November 2010 - 04:32 PM.
Posted 02 December 2010 - 09:43 PM
Again, don't let that guy tweak you. Talk to your boss, emphasize how stressful it is to work with that guy, and how much more pleasant to work where you are now without all that drama to worry about. Emphasize how happy you are with your new boss...then when it's appropriate, i.e., in another conversation at a later time, tell your boss your happy news. Build up to your ultimate goal: to politely bow out of that predicament with the support of your new boss, and with grace and professionalism.